The Older Girl Andaman Islands

Victory-Wealth Goddess 

I was very new to the dating app, Aisle. After 2 months of endlessly inviting girls for a chat, one girl suddenly matched with me. Immediately, she asked for my Whatsapp number and connected in mobile. Probably she knew that the chat in Aisle app just sucks and hangs for no reason. Immediate on connection, she asked me to talk in Tamil and loved the way I spoke. She said that she lives in Andaman & Nicobar Islands, i.e. exactly in Port Blair. Somehow I felt a similarity when I saw her picture and asked her if she has her roots in Tamilnadu. She said that her parents moved to Kolkata as her father worked in Shipping, do not remember which one. And he frequents between Kolkata and Port Blair. As we spoke further, she said she misses thiruvizha of her native place and said that it is in down south in non-descript district. I further prodded her and she said Sivaganga district. On further prodding came out Karaikudi. On further prodding, she said her grandparents belong to Pallathur. The great place of the Murugappa Group, actor Manorama and our school friend, Sundaravalli. Possible that she might have been related to Sundaravalli too. But didnt go beyond that. Wow, the world is indeed a small place. Crazy to know that what internet can do. The euphoria of the call ended with her saying that she was 5 years elder to me and had me been her age, she would have dated me and probably made the next move. She was an amazing positive, extroverted person and it is rare to find such people in their early 40s after going through a separation and with a teenage girl. Kudos to her grit and resilience.

Coming back to her story....

She started her life in Pallathur and moved to Kolkata and was about to finish school when she met her man. Somehow, it became apparent to her parents that they sent her to Pallathur back to keep her away from him. He was a Bengali Muslim boy, settled in Port Blair. During one of the thiruvizha at Pallathur, she made plans, called that boy and eloped from there to Port Blair. I guess this was in 2001. She was 19 or 20 at that time. Wow, what all people do for love is beyond words for me to express. Anyways, she went to Port Blair, married him and started living there. As she didnt complete school or college, it was difficult for her to get a proper job. Her husband, was good at the start, loving and caring, by the way, he was also same age and somewhat overwhelmed by responsibilities. After 4 years the relationship started to sour and she became pregnant after hesitating for a long time. Her in-laws supported her well and she delivered a baby daughter but still relationships were a bit strained. She somehow came back to Indian peninsula and started working in telecom sector and had a difficult time looking after household, baby and job. Somehow, she was encouraged to complete her college through correspondence and returned to Port Blair where she started living alone wit her daughter. Her husband, apart from having arguments with her, started physically assaulting her, as he looked forward to nothing in life and her in-laws supported her from the abuse. Even the small daughter was not spared from the assault and that was the final nail in the coffin. Finally, she went through a 2 year long divorce proceedings and got herself free just before Covid hit, i.e. around 2018-19. Armed with a college degree, she then studied for Central Govt job and cleared it for the Union Territory of A&N and got  job in the Treasury department. All the achievements done while having minimalistic contact with her parents as she is guilty for betraying them earlier in her teens.

The social impact of the whole situation came on the child very hard as she just did enough to pass the exams and now started college. Currently, as of Aug 2024, she is happy living with her daughter in Port Blair and probably dating someone. It has been sometime I touched base with her. But the impact of her presence is felt. It is how a person made you feel matters, after an interaction, than the actual crux of the interaction. 

She is one of the persons from whom I have drawn inspiration to move on from my traumatic situation with my estranged wife. Please note that as of Aug 2024, the legal separation is still pending. The issue of delay from Sept 2022 has only been my daughter and her visitation. That story for an another day.

Meanwhile, Vijayalakshmi.... Rock On !!!